Tuesday, December 04, 2007

The Five Love Languages

I was reading my friend, Beth’s blog about how her and her husband Dave do Christmas gifts. I thought this was hilarious! And it got me thinking about Love Lanuages. You guys have probably read the book that states that each of us speaks a primary “love language”. And when we show people that we love them, we speak to them in our love language..when actually we should be speaking to them in thiers!

For example, my mom is Acts of Service. When she wants to show you she loves you she’ll come and clean your house, make special meals that you like, or baby sit your child. My sister Jona is Giving & Receiving Gifts. She will buy you lavish and thoughtful presents and sends cards with genuine expressions of love hand written in them. My dad, my husband, and I are all Quality Time. We would rather spend time together than just about anything. The author of the book talks about how relationship problems always occur when you try to fill up your spouse’s (or other family member) “love tank” using your love language and not theirs.

Now this brings us back to Christmas…in the U.S…we all start speaking the love language of Giving & Receiving Gifts. In India, you really don’t buy gifts for people for birthdays or for Christmas. So since we’ve been married, I have tried to indoctrinate my husband into the season of this particular love language. I have been none too successful.

Of course, I have always been in the same mindset of Beth, there really is no need to make your husband buy you a “thoughtful” gift. This is a really rather difficult task for a husband. I think if we, as women, are going to be picky about our gifts, then we should be also be helpful…so for the love, don’t make it a federal case…by your own dang Christmas present, wrap it up yourself, or at the very least, give him the exact link to the website and item you want on the web. Have you EVER met a man who’s love language is Gift Giving??

So Honey, when you read this today, I want like this, or this, or this always fit’s just right! Better yet, I’ll get it myself at the mall tomorrow! Love you!

RETRACTION: “Anonymous” from yesterday’s post also apologized for the snippy comment made a couple of months ago. Apology accepted “Anonymous.” Besides, she/he was apparently talking in jest..I just didn’t get it! By the way, who are you????

6 comments:

Jona said...

I appreciate the fact that my sister understands my love language. if I could only get my husband to read this and understand my love language. It is nice that both you and Conrad have the same love language. I am pretty sure my husband is acts of service (or maybe words of affirmation) but definitely not gift giving. He does not get that at all. One day maybe we will speak eachother's love language fluently like our mom and dad do.

Anonymous said...

Wow, I made another posting. I am becoming famous. Maybe I'll have to become a regular poster.

drowninginblessing said...

Very funny, D. Somehow though the idealist in me still wants my hubby to pick it... and my husband (unlike all those NT hubbies) WANTS to do the picking. Idealists to the death! What do you do? Well, we can thank God that we're married to guys who have the same language that we do. No translation needed. :)

drowninginblessing said...

Very funny, D. Somehow though the idealist in me still wants my hubby to pick it... and my husband (unlike all those NT hubbies) WANTS to do the picking. Idealists to the death! What do you do? Well, we can thank God that we're married to guys who have the same language that we do. No translation needed. :)

Tara said...

James is definitely and Acts of Service, not a gift giver! However, him cleaning the bathrooms is the best gift ever!!!
Although if he puts some thought into it, he usually does an amazing job at giving me the perfect gift.
However, since Carlie was born, we have tapered off the gift giving completely -
We do, however, receive something from our kids, that we help them make or pick out at the local mall!

Beth said...

Actually, after trying all those years to actually get my husband to put forth some effort, I finally found this to be the best solution. : )